My response to all 10 types are listed below. I don't necessarily disagree with all the points expressed. Most, if not all, of the women described here are NOT the ones you want to even date, let alone marry. However, like I said, you'd have to be a real dumbass to get involved with any of these women...
1.) "The Unbeliever."
Mixed marriages (with regard to ideology and world view) are a bit of a challenge, that is for sure. Anyone who marries someone with radically different views from theirs is asking for trouble. You'll be constantly arguing with her. That's why NO ONE thinking clearly would do such things. Of course, there will be some people who insist on doing such stupid things, which civil society usually resolves through a practice churches hate called 'divorce.' And that leads us to...
2.) The Divorcee.
the author here is probably referring to avoiding people who have been divorced several times, which is quite sensible. That's what my last unit chaplain said when I inquired about this on Facebook.
Being divorced once may not be an issue. More than that, and any sane and rational person is going to start questioning that person's choices in life. If you don't, you'll probably be like a certain Army NCO that I know who was married three times before he was thirty. I won't go into details on the guy's private life but, I can say this much: marriage is NOT for him.
Since we are on the subject though, I think I can offer a unique perspective here...
Divorce is awful but, there are worse things. Would you want that woman to stay married to an abusive alcoholic just because he never cheated on her? That's ridiculous and dangerous. That kind of non-sensical point of view scares people away from having any belief in God at all. Also, I doubt strongly that God or his son Jeshua would want a woman to stay with a husband that mistreats her. If they did, they would not be worthy of anyone's worship. God should NOT be requiring people to be miserable (and both psychologically and spiritually tortured) just to follow some rule and maintain some kind of unworkable, possibly tyrannical social order. That kind of behavior and thought process drives people AWAY from God. That's not what we want here, right?
3.) The Older Woman
For this one, the author decided to quote a study to try and back his claims. (And I love just how much I laugh when someone tries to use the results of a single study to 'prove' something...)
Apparently, even secular researchers are now beginning to discover results that back up biblical claims: “If you’re a woman two or more years older than your husband, your marriage is 53 percent more likely to end in divorce than if he was one year younger to three years older.” (Source: Rebecca Kippen, Bruce Chapman and Peng Yu, “What’s Love Got to Do With It? Homogamy and Dyadic Approaches to Understanding Marital Instability,” Melbourne Institute of Applied Economic and Social Research, 2009.)
So, I have to be older than my wife, huh? Even if she's only 2 or 3 years older than me? How about 2 or 3 minutes? Is that okay with you? This sounds so ageist.
A woman that's 2 or 3 years older than her husband is not a significant difference, when the marriage happens between young people in their 20's or 30's. It might be for me since I'm 33 and a 35 or 36 year-old woman may have a lot more risks with pregnancy and childbirth. Therefore, I'm going after someone younger than me for just that reason. It's also highly likely that at least one of my children will be born with the same neurological condition that I have. I prefer that my children do NOT have any other issues complicating their lives.
4.) The Feminist
Marry a Feminist? Are you nuts? Feminism has devolved into another bullshit left-wing trope that man-haters (and probably a LOT of Butch Lesbians) use to blame men for all of the evils in the world. Women can be quite evil too. Ever hear of Mary, Queen of Scots? Catherine the Great of Russia? Lizzie Borden? Hillary Clinton? The list is a VERY long one, indeed.
Also, quoting St. Paul, a known misogynist, to make this point was not necessary. Especially since he just HAD to reference the myth from Genesis about how women were created from one of Adam's ribs. Moses made that story up when he wrote the Torah millennia ago. He created (or transcribed) this myth to explain what was otherwise unexplainable at the time. They didn't have Science. They had no idea how the Universe worked or how life was even created. We are much more knowledgeable in that area now.
And no, Science and Faith are NOT at odds with each other. Anyone who thinks they are doesn't really understand how either Faith or Science are supposed to work. Sir Isaac Newton (who was also a devout Roman Catholic) said it best when he described Science as 'an attempt to learn how God created the universe.' That should be the way people think of and approach Science: just the way of figuring out how everything works. If that somehow went against the Lord's plan for Humanity, he probably shouldn't have given us high-order intelligence or an opposable thumb.
Finally, this quote stood out for me:
"Men, your wife is to be your “helper” (Gen 2:18)–not your leader and certainly not your equal in terms of authority."
Be careful with that kind of talk, padre. You might give some people the wrong idea. That being said, no man should let his woman push him around. I have seen men who do let themselves be pushed around by their women. I had no respect for them. They were the very epitome of the word 'pussy' when used in the context of insulting a male. By that same token, I would not want a wife who would make herself subservient to me. I would not respect (or find very attractive and desirable) a woman who has no spirit or mind of her own. That's not a Human being, it's an empty shell. At most, someone like that will have my pity, not my love.
5.) The Sexy-Dresser
You are aware that women dress 'sexy' (which is a term with a great many different meanings to many different people) to make themselves feel good, right? They like to look and feel pretty. It's not all about you, guy. Besides, the feminine form is God's greatest work of art and I am an art lover. So, I don't mind if a woman wears a dress that shows off her legs a little. For example...
If that picture looks at all 'slutty' to you good sir, then you need to hitch a ride with the Doctor in his TARDIS so he can take you back to 1854.
Of course, I'm not gonna pursue someone who dresses sleazy in public and looks like she's about to shoot a scene for a porno flick. I'm not stupid or naive. I never was that stupid or naive. Women that do dress that way are usually looking for some kind of male attention that's not related to finding a husband. I won't use any pictures as examples here because it's not necessary. We all have imaginations and we have all known at least one individual who behaved that way. And I'm sure all of them ended up with some rather tragic, heart-breaking failed relationships, too. (Not to mention a few unexpected childbirths...)
All that being said, not everyone parading around in skimpy clothes is a harlot. For example, the Supermodel Adriana Lima. Her job is to model a lot of lingerie and barely-there bikinis but, you won't find someone more religious than her. She routinely brings a Bible back stage with her to fashion shows and reads from it while her make-up is being applied. She also stayed a virgin until she got married. She's quite beautiful and a devout Roman Catholic but, still parades around in very little clothing on her body. So, yeah... Maybe we all shouldn't be so quick to judge. I do remember SOMEONE saying something about that once in a book I read as a child...
6.) The Loud-Mouth
The author was talking about women who like to gossip a lot. Something tells me he's never been to a beauty parlor, brunch or sewing circle.
ALL women gossip a little. That is the nature of the beast. You just want to avoid women who make it a point to stab people in the back with harsh words. That's another type of woman I *DON'T* need a clergyman to tell me to avoid. I don't want a bitch like that in my life, anyway. People who go around bad-mouthing everyone else are usually pretty rotten themselves.
I have seen this all too often in life, especially in those (mostly) 'wasted years' I spent in the Army. Also, gossip is not strictly limited to women. Men are just as guilty of this bad behavior. So guys, don't be that kind of an asshole. I promise you that it will not turn out well.
7.) The Child-Hater
Since I want children, it would be quite illogical to form a romantic relationship with a woman who doesn't want or can't have them. Again, I don't need you to tell me these things. Believe it or not, I'm actually pretty bright and quite capable of making my own good and wise decisions.
Also, there are some people who would make lousy parents and know this for themselves already. Trying to force them to reproduce against their will is unspeakably wrong and damaging to both that individual and society as a whole.
8.) The Wander-Luster
"The constant desire for new experiences, new places, new faces, and new forms of entertainment only serves to clearly manifest the fact that the woman has not found her rest in God."
What?!
You know what I call someone who has no desire for learning or desire to socialize with anyone new? Spiritually dead. I don't need (or want) to stifle a woman's personality and spirit to have a good wife. That's not a partner and spouse, that would be a slave. Slavery is wrong.
Life is all about new experiences and exploring the universe around you. You're cheating yourself of a very rich and fulfilling life if you don't explore what's around you.
That being said, I am not interested in marrying someone with a bohemian bent. If she wants to travel the world constantly, she probably shouldn't be looking to get married to me. I've had enough world travel already. I'd prefer to stay in one place for a while.
9.) The Career Woman
Again, I don't need someone to explain to me what is blindingly obvious. A man or woman that dedicates themselves to a job more than their most important personal relationship in this world are asking for that relationship to wither away and die. I wouldn't marry someone who doesn't make time for me. Wouldn't that be another (perhaps unwitting) example of the child hater previously mentioned in talking point #7? Why would I marry her?
Also, it would be nice if I could be the sole breadwinner and the wife could dedicate herself to raising the children. However, economic reality does not usually allow for that anymore. You can thank the crooks that conned their way into political office for that sad fact. And as long as those crooks run things, houses, cars and groceries are not ever going to get any cheaper. I truly wonder how many marriages came to an end simply because one or both had to spend virtually every waking minute focused on their job just to make ends meet. I know of at least one marriage where this scenario was played out for many years. I don't know if it directly contributed to the marriage ending, though.
10.) The Devotion-less Woman
So, if she isn't overtly religious, she's somehow unworthy? That seems a bit harsh. Besides, I don't say prayers every day. That is reserved for when I have an emergency that really does need divine intervention. God gave me the ability to solve most of my problems and that is what he expects me to do. Just because he's capable of anything does not mean that he should have to do EVERYTHING, guy. Even if God was as ego-centric as some might claim (based on inaccurate views of the first 3 commandments), NO ONE likes an ass-kisser. That behavior gets annoying really quickly...
Also, I have been around a LOT of overtly religious people in my life and not a single one of them truly understood what it actually means to be a Christian. Oftentimes, they were a bunch of charlatans who probably violated the 3rd Commandment by (perhaps unwittingly) committing evil in God's name and drove people away from faith. I will never purposely put myself into a position where I'm around those kinds of disreputable individuals ever again. Faith is fine. Organized religion is the worst enabler of bad behavior that Human Civilization has ever invented.
Some of the worst experiences of my life were because of overtly religious people. To me, they are the most dangerous and evil people in the world. And it's all because they insist on being so intolerant of anything or anyone that is different from them and their worldview. That kind of behavior is NOT in keeping with the teachings of the Christ (See Matthew 7:1) or the spirit of this blessed republic we call the United States of America. If you think, feel or act that way, you are not some 'good Christian' looking out for me. You're the enemy and you will be destroyed.
An idea that has to be forced on people is not an idea that is worthwhile.
- Lord Publius
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