How to handle so-called 'friends' that don't understand/accept that Aspie = completely different...

ORIGINALLY POSTED TO MY FB PAGE ON 2 JUNE 2013...

"Had to get rid of someone from my friend list/life today because he's apparently a judgmental f***stick. The fact that he constantly gets the wrong idea about ANYTHING I say or do and immediately assumes the worst didn't help him. He also kept referring to people abandoning me and that he was the only one that actually cared about me. Not only is this far from true, it also shows that he's manipulative and potentially psychotic. I don't need someone like that around me or having access to my FB profile.

I'm not even 100% sure who he's talking about, either. If it's a certain old High School acquaintance of mine and his whole family then, he's got it wrong. I abandoned them because they were trying to manipulate me and were very judgmental about my romantic preferences. (i.e. NOT dating women that they found attractive and that I did not.) Not everyone is going to like the same things that you like or see things your way, folks. Learn to live with this and your life will be a LOT easier.

Also, mentioning the Asperger's Syndrome (and that those who supposedly abandoned me wouldn't have cared even if they did know at the time) didn't help this guy's case. If that isn't just a textbook example of someone trying really hard to be a manipulative ASSHOLE then, I don't know what is...

Besides, he long outlived any usefulness he may have had for my life. The skills he had are easily replaceable with knowledge of my own, one of my cousins and several friends of mine across the United States. NONE of these people are judgmental or trying to tell me I need to change, either. (Let alone insisting that I need to apologize to some girlfriend of theirs for an imagined slight that supposedly happened years ago...) Thanks to my job having me traveling/living all over the world, I haven't spent any time socializing with him in almost 3 years. I'm a pretty different person today than I was 3 years ago. He probably is too. I don't think I like this new version of him. I didn't like him constantly trying to force his nonsensical leftist politics on me, either.

I was patient with him for a long while but, sometimes, you just have to let some people go. Besides, do I want (totally unsolicited) life advice from someone who couldn't get a real job until he was in his 30's (not including the small computer store he once had) and then badmouths his employers on his FB page? That isn't very smart... And yes, I know I badmouth the Government all the time on my FB page but, that's part of being a good citizen. You're supposed to speak out against bad policy. That, and I won't be working for the Government much longer anyway. Very soon, I will be able to say whatever I want and those crooks in D.C. are going to hear from me like never before. (EDITOR'S NOTE: I have a government job, which I am in the process of leaving for numerous reasons. That will be detailed in future posts.)

Finally, I think this guy missed the memo/FB note of mine from 12 Nov 2012 where I explained in a numbered list that I wasn't putting up with drama/taking unsolicited advice anymore (among other things)...

QUOTE FROM THAT NOTE:

3.) No longer tolerating @$$holes of any kind, especially people that want to force their (often social/political) views on me. F*** your opinions, I can form my own.

That should say it all right there. Besides, if you aren't thinking for yourself, you aren't really thinking at all."

I made a YouTube video about this which went into more detail but, I won't post that here. I can quote myself, though... As unintentionally egocentric as that may be...

"A good friend (or even a decent one) can become a bad friend over time. (but) In my experience, a bad friend never becomes a good one."

"If someone claims to be your friend and tries to force their personal views on you, then chances are good they are not really your friend. It's one thing if they are just trying to teach you how to interact with the rest of society, because that's [them] trying to square you away. But, if they are determined to try to make you join some political party or hold a particular spiritual philosophy or something, then tell that guy to fuck off and go find some other friends. Trust me, it ain't that difficult anyway."

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- Lord Publius